{"id":139,"date":"2015-09-26T03:36:48","date_gmt":"2015-09-26T03:36:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/?p=139"},"modified":"2026-05-28T23:01:49","modified_gmt":"2026-05-28T23:01:49","slug":"donna-ogunnaike-spokenword","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/donna-ogunnaike-spokenword\/","title":{"rendered":"Donna Ogunnaike"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>What do You Wear?<\/h2>\n<p>I wear Gucci and Zannotti<br \/>\nBought from lands far and exotic<br \/>\nA million Naira worth of weave-on<br \/>\nWith heels that can pay the bills<br \/>\nI wear my outdoor designer outfits<br \/>\nThough my heart is filled with pits<br \/>\nI wish someone would say \u201cI love you\u201d<br \/>\nAnd for once, actually mean it<br \/>\nI wear my spinsterhood like a well cut jacket<br \/>\nPaste on it designer labels<br \/>\nLike Gucci Still Single and Prada Sadness<br \/>\nThe fragrances that fill my empty womb<br \/>\nI wear the lonely reality of the independent and strong black woman<br \/>\nI do not know how to manipulate or scheme<br \/>\nSo I sew on the pretence of a warrior<br \/>\nAnd fix on my head a Brazilian weave<br \/>\nWhat do you wear?<\/p>\n<p>I wear a foreign accent and own a foreign certified degree<br \/>\nStill at night I go to bed without electricity<br \/>\nI wear the morning like a burden on these Lagos streets<br \/>\nRepeat my daily politeness, but damn! I can\u2019t stand the heat<br \/>\nI wish I could go back home you know, abroad where everything is nice and neat<br \/>\nThe money is here however, this is the land of opportunity<br \/>\nIt baffles me how I have no strength to just get up and leave<br \/>\nYou see my Father has absolute control over me, though I am already 36<br \/>\nBut I wake up daily and hit the floor running!<br \/>\nI swear in pidgin English and curse in Yoruba when power goes out<br \/>\nAs soon as I step out of my bedroom door I am again the Queen<br \/>\nI wear my foreign accent and flaunt my foreign certified degree<br \/>\nPretend that I am independent and that nothing has a hold over me<br \/>\nWhat do you wear?<\/p>\n<p>I wear the panic of a broke chic men!<br \/>\nLiving my life off different men<br \/>\nAt night my sleep is bothered by hailstones and fires<br \/>\nThe insults and prayers cast by the wives of some of these my men<br \/>\nI sort them out at that place where three roads meet at night,<br \/>\nMen, I will not go out without a fight<br \/>\nMy shoes are made by survival; I step into them without regret<br \/>\nI wear my reality with pride my Sister!<br \/>\nI can take all your men from you without breaking a sweat<br \/>\nThere is an upper class seat waiting<br \/>\nAnd someone has to pay for it<br \/>\nThis body won\u2019t keep firm forever<br \/>\nIt needs to cash out those cheques<br \/>\nWhat do you wear?<\/p>\n<p>I wear the opportunities of my social circle<br \/>\nI shop at Harrods and Selfridges alone<br \/>\nNot because of any money I have earned myself<br \/>\nBut because of all of these people that I know<br \/>\nYou see in this world, its pedigree that matters<br \/>\nI am not even aware that power gets withheld<br \/>\nI have never known the price of diesel<br \/>\nThough I know what it means to be alone<br \/>\nBoarding houses all my life and an arranged marriage in tow<br \/>\nStill, I have come to love this man<br \/>\nAlthough he is hardly at home<br \/>\nBut this is the marriage my Mother had<br \/>\nAnd one I have come to know<br \/>\nI wear upper class and super exposure<br \/>\nThis is the life I live<br \/>\nI will have it no other way<br \/>\nWhat\u2026 do you wear?<\/p>\n<p>I wear the marriage of opportunity<br \/>\nI am the one with that diamond ring<br \/>\nI don\u2019t care for him and he doesn\u2019t love me,<br \/>\nStill I am friends with all of his family<br \/>\nHe is sleeping with one of my friends\u2019<br \/>\nIts alright though I have slept with her husband<br \/>\nMy mind is steady and focused<br \/>\ninfidelity cannot stand in my way<br \/>\nWe all know what we are here for<br \/>\nI\u2018ve given my children his name<br \/>\nWhen him and his father are dead<br \/>\nTheir legacy and riches will be ours to gain<br \/>\nI saw my Mother suffer shame and penury<br \/>\nAs the fourth wife of six;<br \/>\nSo from school I carefully chose \u201cfriends\u201d with whom I would mix<br \/>\nSee, I lied and cheated my way up here<br \/>\nAnd I am not about to lose it!<br \/>\nI wear the schemes of a street wise woman<br \/>\nMy Mother taught me well.<br \/>\nWhat do you wear?<\/p>\n<p>I wear a diet,<br \/>\nAnd fashion trends and gossip.<br \/>\nI am concerned with not knowing<br \/>\nKnowledge is power and the tabloids are there to supply a wealth of information<br \/>\nI wear the knowledge of everyone\u2019s names at parties,<br \/>\nI know where they work, what they earn and who they recently slept with<br \/>\nI go to bed content; I have done my daily bit<br \/>\nIt doesn\u2019t matter that regarding my own life and destiny, I do not know s@it!<br \/>\nMeanwhile\u2026What do you wear?<\/p>\n<p>I wear the burden of one that used to believe<br \/>\nI no longer trust myself<br \/>\nThere was once I would have fought for righteousness<br \/>\nBut what\u2019s that about? I\u2019m now a complete mess!<br \/>\nEach one I see fights for nothing substantial<br \/>\nOnly shoes and big named weave-on<br \/>\nThey clamor for fame and cheap fortune<br \/>\nAnd those sickening travel bags by Louis Vuitton<br \/>\nI see them arrive at the airports in high heels and perfume even though that place stinks!<br \/>\nSee, I tried to balance faith and reality<br \/>\nAnd came up with a weird mix<br \/>\nI spoke logic at posh dinner parties<br \/>\nAnd listened patiently to atheists<br \/>\nI even slept with this one guy, but, what a waste of sin!<br \/>\nHe had no bedroom skills, and he never once proposed to me!!!<\/p>\n<p>Now I am sick from double dealing between faith and worldiness<br \/>\nI\u2019m struggling to find my way back home<br \/>\nFighting to rise again through all of this mess<br \/>\nI\u2019m tired, in this fight for faith, of being all alone<br \/>\nBeing the only one to truly believe<br \/>\nThat, men can be faithful and women submissive<br \/>\nThat, prayers don\u2019t need the addition of juju to make them effective<br \/>\nThat, teenage children do not need expensive mobile phones<br \/>\nThat, there\u2019s nothing wrong with abstinence<br \/>\nThere are more virgins world over than a paltry number, 6<br \/>\nThat, we are not all \u201cthose born again Christians!\u201d<br \/>\nYou know, the ones who sleep around and in Church \u201cbless\u201d<br \/>\nThat, they are not all terrorists who bow to pray<br \/>\nAnd rise to follow the faith of the Prophet Mohamed!<br \/>\nI\u2019m sick and tired of trying to be real<br \/>\nWhen my friends panic when they are not seen flying upper class<br \/>\nI\u2019m sick of girls emptying their savings to buy just one big-named bag<br \/>\nThen turn around and ask me \u201cplease can you pay for my meal at Mama Cass?!\u201d.<br \/>\nI wear the burden of the tired and worn out believer of my faith<\/p>\n<p>What do you wear?<br \/>\nI am doctor, I am lawyer<br \/>\nI am musician, I am student<br \/>\nI am educated; albeit only in my own mind<br \/>\nI am a sponsor, I am defendant<br \/>\nI am proper, I am a runs girl<br \/>\nI am married, I am single<br \/>\nI am fulfilled, I am discontent<br \/>\nI am a villager; I have just come to Lagos<br \/>\nI am a student; I am dating a politician<br \/>\nI am faithful, I am promiscuous<br \/>\nI am a candidate, I am a principal<br \/>\nI am a believer, I am atheist<br \/>\nI am prosecutor, I am judge<\/p>\n<p>I wear this life daily<br \/>\nAnd the things I do that define me<br \/>\nI wear my good and bad decisions<br \/>\nand the path on which they have led me<br \/>\nI wear all that I have become<br \/>\nAnd sometimes not everything that I should be<br \/>\nI wear the burden of being<br \/>\nI wear the burden of living<br \/>\nI wear that WOMAN.<br \/>\nWhat do YOU wear?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><b>What do You Wear?<\/b><br \/>\n I wear Gucci and Zannotti Bought from lands far and exotic A million Naira worth of weave-on With heels that can pay the bills I wear my outdoor designer outfits Though my heart is filled with pits I wish someone would say \u201cI love you\u201d And for once, actually mean it I wear my spinsterhood <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":753,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"video","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-139","post","type-post","status-publish","format-video","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spokenword","post_format-post-format-video"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/139","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=139"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/139\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":686,"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/139\/revisions\/686"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/753"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=139"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=139"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mtls.ca\/issue20\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=139"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}